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The 'Man Club True Love' Experience
posted Thursday, 12 January 2006
I think there's only me left in the 'Men's Club' these days, so the name itself is rather inaccurate. But hopefully some more men will take up the challenge of joining soon, and this whole thing will get back on track.
First off, apologies for missing last week's topic. To avoid a recurrence, I'm writing this on Tuesday, so there is no way I can miss Thursday's deadline this week. He says. Confidently.
The topic this week, and my first of 2006, is about true love, and whether you only get one true love in your life.
For me, this one seemed fairly easy at first. I've always been of the belief that there is one person out there for each of us and it's just a metter of finding them. Then recently I decided that there were a small number of people out there for each of us and that it was just a matter of finding one of them.
Whilst my original belief seemed nice and romantic, I realised that it had a few fatal flaws in it. For example, if there was only one person out there for us, what would happen if you never actually found them?! If they lived in foreign parts. Or if they found someone else by mistake and you never got to be with them. Or even, heaven forbid, if they died before you got to meet them!! So what was originally a nice. romantic notion actually meant that it would have been virtually impossible to meet the one that was destined to be with you. Which seemed rather depressing!!
So the amended belief seemed to be a lot more positive. The notion that there were a few people dotted around that you could be equally happy with. So the chances of actually finding one of them were a lot higher. And if one fell off a cliff you still had the chance of meeting one of the others and being eternally happy. Lovely.
But now, if you examine this week's topic in light of my new belief, it would seem possible, theoretically, that you could meet more than one of your destined partners during the course of your life. Which makes the whole thing a lot more complicated methinks.
In some ways it makes sense. If you found a perfect match, were extremely happy, married etc, etc and then they passed away, it would mean that somewhere down the line you could go on to find love again. Which I believe can certainly happen and is a generally good thing.
But in other ways it's a bit tricky, in that you could have found one of your perfect partners, been extremely happy etc, and then happen to meet one of your other perfect matches. So what would happen then?! Which one of the two is 'The One'?! The one you found first, that you are comfortable and happy with, or the one you've just met, that is new and exciting and could help you develop more as a person?! Nightmare!!
Do relationships get better with time, as the TV advert claims, or are humans genetically designed to move between partners throughout their lives, going from one love to the next? I think that's a pretty big question really, and perhaps I'll work it out as I move through life.
But for now, I'll stick with my happy notion that there are a few perfect matches out there for each of us, and that when we meet one of them we'll all be blissfully happy and will never happen to stumble across one of our other perfect matches, until such a point that we need to.
Sounds good to me.
For other views on this, no doubt all from the fairer sex, pop across to Just Breathe, Villains Vanquished, Who Moved My Truth and This Mom Blogs.
First off, apologies for missing last week's topic. To avoid a recurrence, I'm writing this on Tuesday, so there is no way I can miss Thursday's deadline this week. He says. Confidently.
The topic this week, and my first of 2006, is about true love, and whether you only get one true love in your life.
For me, this one seemed fairly easy at first. I've always been of the belief that there is one person out there for each of us and it's just a metter of finding them. Then recently I decided that there were a small number of people out there for each of us and that it was just a matter of finding one of them.
Whilst my original belief seemed nice and romantic, I realised that it had a few fatal flaws in it. For example, if there was only one person out there for us, what would happen if you never actually found them?! If they lived in foreign parts. Or if they found someone else by mistake and you never got to be with them. Or even, heaven forbid, if they died before you got to meet them!! So what was originally a nice. romantic notion actually meant that it would have been virtually impossible to meet the one that was destined to be with you. Which seemed rather depressing!!
So the amended belief seemed to be a lot more positive. The notion that there were a few people dotted around that you could be equally happy with. So the chances of actually finding one of them were a lot higher. And if one fell off a cliff you still had the chance of meeting one of the others and being eternally happy. Lovely.
But now, if you examine this week's topic in light of my new belief, it would seem possible, theoretically, that you could meet more than one of your destined partners during the course of your life. Which makes the whole thing a lot more complicated methinks.
In some ways it makes sense. If you found a perfect match, were extremely happy, married etc, etc and then they passed away, it would mean that somewhere down the line you could go on to find love again. Which I believe can certainly happen and is a generally good thing.
But in other ways it's a bit tricky, in that you could have found one of your perfect partners, been extremely happy etc, and then happen to meet one of your other perfect matches. So what would happen then?! Which one of the two is 'The One'?! The one you found first, that you are comfortable and happy with, or the one you've just met, that is new and exciting and could help you develop more as a person?! Nightmare!!
Do relationships get better with time, as the TV advert claims, or are humans genetically designed to move between partners throughout their lives, going from one love to the next? I think that's a pretty big question really, and perhaps I'll work it out as I move through life.
But for now, I'll stick with my happy notion that there are a few perfect matches out there for each of us, and that when we meet one of them we'll all be blissfully happy and will never happen to stumble across one of our other perfect matches, until such a point that we need to.
Sounds good to me.
For other views on this, no doubt all from the fairer sex, pop across to Just Breathe, Villains Vanquished, Who Moved My Truth and This Mom Blogs.