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The 'Men's Club Great Sex' Experience
posted Friday, 14 October 2005
I'm not really posting this week - or at least I didn't think I was. But as half of the lovely Divas & Men have linked to me for my views on this week's topic, it would seem churlish of me not to come up with something. Even if it is a day late. But, as I was always taught, it's better to come late than not to come at all. And far better than coming too early.
Anyway.
The question is / was 'Do men always have great sex?' Very tricky one is this. You'd really need to go into defining 'great' sex to get to the bottom of this one.
Whilst it is true that men will always tend to have an orgasm during sex, this does not, methinks, make every sexual encounter a great one. After all, having an orgasm isn't the be all and end all of life. If it was we'd all just sit at home on our own every day and wank ourselves into an early grave. Which not many people actually do. Except perhaps when we're 13 or 14 years old.
And now I've probably attracted hundred of filthy paedos via Google. So if you've coming here looking for any of that shit, then jump out of the nearest window. Twice. Fuckers.
Where was I?
Ah yes. Great sex. Clearly some sex is great. Some is greater than great. Some is ok. And some is below average. The laws of the world would dictate that some sex has to be below average. Even if you were lucky enough to have 'great' sex every time, some of it would necessarily have to be better than others.
For me, great sex occurs when both of you are really up for it (or at the very least, both of you are awake); when you don't have any other things on your mind; when you both want the same thing from it; when you're both in a good mood and when you're both in the mood for trying something a bit different. Oh yes, and when you're both very much in love. I've never been one for one-night encounters.
Average sex is likely to occur when at least one of you is knackered and / or when you have a hundred other things on your mind.
There have certainly been times when I haven't particularly enjoyed sex and haven't really been in the mood for it. Mostly with my first ex. On these occasions it just felt like a chore. I'd much rather have been out with my mates. Or even watching the TV. Or just been asleep.
And there have certainly been times when the sex has been wonderful. Mostly with my last ex. Until I got incredibly miserable and tired, mainly due to my last job.
Whilst men can be fairly simple creatures, with caveman instincts and the underlying need to spread our seeds far and wide, this certainly doesn't mean that every sexual encounter we have will be a towering inferno of passion and lust. Sometimes it really is just sex.
Having said that, after 2 YEARS without it, the next time really had better be amazing, or else I'm giving up completely and retiring....
And having just read the views at Drunken Wisdom, it occured to me that when you both have an orgasm at the same time, that is the pinnacle of making love - both participants are both perfectly happy, no-one feels let down, or, more importantly, that they've let the other person down. Perfection itself. Well alluded to, that man!! Now that type of sex really is GREAT sex....
For other views on this topic, pop along to The Project Bowl, Phin, Naked Villainy and Drunken Wisdom for the man's view, or Just Breathe, Fistful of Fortnights, Cake Eater Chronicles, Lollygaggin and Villains Vanquished for the girly view. Or just have some sex instead. Your choice.
Anyway.
The question is / was 'Do men always have great sex?' Very tricky one is this. You'd really need to go into defining 'great' sex to get to the bottom of this one.
Whilst it is true that men will always tend to have an orgasm during sex, this does not, methinks, make every sexual encounter a great one. After all, having an orgasm isn't the be all and end all of life. If it was we'd all just sit at home on our own every day and wank ourselves into an early grave. Which not many people actually do. Except perhaps when we're 13 or 14 years old.
And now I've probably attracted hundred of filthy paedos via Google. So if you've coming here looking for any of that shit, then jump out of the nearest window. Twice. Fuckers.
Where was I?
Ah yes. Great sex. Clearly some sex is great. Some is greater than great. Some is ok. And some is below average. The laws of the world would dictate that some sex has to be below average. Even if you were lucky enough to have 'great' sex every time, some of it would necessarily have to be better than others.
For me, great sex occurs when both of you are really up for it (or at the very least, both of you are awake); when you don't have any other things on your mind; when you both want the same thing from it; when you're both in a good mood and when you're both in the mood for trying something a bit different. Oh yes, and when you're both very much in love. I've never been one for one-night encounters.
Average sex is likely to occur when at least one of you is knackered and / or when you have a hundred other things on your mind.
There have certainly been times when I haven't particularly enjoyed sex and haven't really been in the mood for it. Mostly with my first ex. On these occasions it just felt like a chore. I'd much rather have been out with my mates. Or even watching the TV. Or just been asleep.
And there have certainly been times when the sex has been wonderful. Mostly with my last ex. Until I got incredibly miserable and tired, mainly due to my last job.
Whilst men can be fairly simple creatures, with caveman instincts and the underlying need to spread our seeds far and wide, this certainly doesn't mean that every sexual encounter we have will be a towering inferno of passion and lust. Sometimes it really is just sex.
Having said that, after 2 YEARS without it, the next time really had better be amazing, or else I'm giving up completely and retiring....
And having just read the views at Drunken Wisdom, it occured to me that when you both have an orgasm at the same time, that is the pinnacle of making love - both participants are both perfectly happy, no-one feels let down, or, more importantly, that they've let the other person down. Perfection itself. Well alluded to, that man!! Now that type of sex really is GREAT sex....
For other views on this topic, pop along to The Project Bowl, Phin, Naked Villainy and Drunken Wisdom for the man's view, or Just Breathe, Fistful of Fortnights, Cake Eater Chronicles, Lollygaggin and Villains Vanquished for the girly view. Or just have some sex instead. Your choice.